Prepare a special dinner at home, just for the two of you. Focus this time on getting to know your spouse better, perhaps in areas you've rarely talked about. Determine to make it an enjoyable evening for you and your mate.
Love seeks to understand.
"How blessed is the man who finds wisdom, and the man who gains understanding."
Well, it is near impossible in this house to have dinner for two alone. Hubs goes to bed at the same time the children do because of the hours that he works, so as a substitute, we dropped the children off at the inlaw's house while we came home to put together Sweetpea's birthday present. We spent that time talking to each other like we used to before children were there to interrupt with a "Mommy....."
It was nice. Sometimes, once children are a part of the picture, it is easy to forget how to have conversations that are not about the children. We forget that we both have interests OTHER than our children and that we have things in common OTHER than the children. Don't get me wrong, we love our children and we absolutely enjoy our family and the time spent together, but it is also still important to remember each other.
Hubs and I have only been married for 3 1/2 years. We've had two children in that short time, so it wasn't hard for our relationship as a couple to be overshadowed by our relationship as parents. It's refreshing to come back to just us once in awhile. We have talked and decided that at least once every 2-3 months to have a date night. That short time we were alone putting together a toddler bed is the most time we have had sans children since Sweetpea has been born, and while it isn't necessary, we feel it will benefit our relationship to take a break from time to time and get to know each other...again.